NOTHING Can Replace or Diminish a Strong Work Ethic


NOTHING Can Replace or Diminish a Strong Work Ethic


It doesn’t really matter whether you’re an actor, writer or IT professional.


You must have a strong work ethic to survive and thrive in this world.


From an observational standpoint, I use a lot of child stars as an example. Not all, but a lot of them were quite lucky from an early age and the only job they ever had was to be an actor.
Pretty great, huh?


However their experience is not a realistic one and it did not prepare them for the world at large when/if their careers stalled.


A lot of them are not prepared and were not prepared for curve balls that headed their way, because they didn’t have any other skill than being an actor.

It has nothing to do with having an Plan A or Plan B, per se.


It has to do with your world and life experience.

From my own observation when I hear of a young star or starlet being “difficult” or showing up late, keeping people waiting, being snotty to’s not shocking to me.


They don’t appreciate what a gift they have been given. 

Those of you in the trenches waiting tables, tending bar, substitute teaching and on and on are believe it or not SO lucky & SO much more prepared for life.


When/if you get those bookings and triumphs, you appreciate it and do not take it for granted.


They were simply not prepared for a world that didn’t include a hit TV show or film career.


On one hand, I believe if you’re a good person you’re going to be that same good person regardless of the money and success that comes your way.


On the other hand, the young starlets and stars that behave in such a manner are not much different than this younger generation coming out of school and expecting everything handed to them.


They haven’t had the struggle. They never waited tables or worked in a chaotic call center. They have never been sick to their stomach as the 1st of the month approaches. For them, that does not compute.


There are always exceptions. Always. But I see it quite frequently with successful actors that if you followed their journey you realize that they were pretty darn lucky.


True, we don’t always see their struggles and their work.

But if they have been a working actor since their teens and early 20’s, color them fortunate.


I have been working since I was 11 years old.


I was “the” neighborhood babysitter and was known as the type of responsible kid that parents trusted. And I did that consistently until I was old enough to get an official job at the mall. And many many jobs and careers followed including acting. 


I went to school with kids that didn’t have to work. If we took a trek to the mall their parents easily and readily gave them a couple $100 to blow on whatever.


If I wanted whatever, I had to work to pay for it.


I’m bringing up Work Ethic because I believe it is so important for aspiring and working actors. You’ve often heard the phrase that your agent makes 10% so you’re responsible for 90% of the work.


And it’s SO true.


So many actors think once they sign with that agent that their work is done.

I talk about this in my book, “ACTING…It’s Not For Sissies”.


Once you sign with an agent THAT is when the work begins. NOW you’re in a position to capitalize on that connection and that person who is working to get you into doors.
So when you make it in that door you had better be ready.


How are you going to be ready?


Classes, workshops, up-to-date professional headshots, updated resume and of course TALENT.


And how you are going to pay for all of that? Work! Work! Work!


This business has ebbs and flows for everyone no matter their success level. You must be willing to venture out into unknown territory and take the reins.


You cannot sit and wait for your agent or anyone else to bring things to you. Go out and get it!!


There will always be actors that are working actors that people refer to as “difficult”, that will never change.


However, in most cases, do you want to know why it’s “who you know”? That’s because no one wants to spend a 15-hour day with a pain in the ass!!


If a director has worked with an actor and had a great experience, they’re going to hire that actor again.


That’s why it’s “who you know”.


There are producers and directors that say, you know what, I could get this person who is a much bigger “name”, but life is too damn short and if we’re going to embark on this creative journey, let’s enjoy it too!


Life is happening all around you.


You may not currently be at your chosen destination.


But please know if you’re armed with a healthy work ethic, you will always get the better of those challenges that life throws your way.


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“ACTING…It’s Not For Sissies”


Tess Holliday Takes A Swipe At Victoria’s Secret…Again

September 2015
December 2015

Good morning peeps!


Well, apparently Plus-Sized model, Tess Holliday decided to take a swipe at Victoria’s Secret models. (sigh) And this isn’t the 1st time she has done this.


This tale is as old as time.


Now, if the tables were turned, everyone would pile up on those angels from VS and pull out the popular term, “bully”.


The fact that she then equated herself with the gay community and black community is also very telling. She sees herself as some sort of oppressed minority and therefore she believes she has Carte Blanche to say whatever she wishes without consequences? Was that her thinking?


Actually, I have no idea what she was thinking or her true rationale so I will leave that alone.


However, I will say a few other things.


Why are women constantly in a competition with one another to say, “No, I’M the ideal woman!” ?


It annoys me.


These are the times when I feel more like a man and think, geez, women are exhausting.  Am I right?


Tess is using VS to gain publicity for herself because she is preying on the insecurity of all women. Women that look at VS models and think, crap, I’m never going to look like that. I’m 5’4″ and my legs are just never going to be that long; That ship has sailed.


But Tess, you’re in for a rude awakening. I do not want to look like you. I don’t aspire to look like you and in fact you’re so heavy that you make me uncomfortable.


In addition, I have never personally been a fan of tattoos. Not in the slightest. I realize in the younger generation I may be in the minority but I’m not a fan of that look.


I dated a muscle-head guy years ago and didn’t realize he had tattoos until he wore a short-sleeved shirt. I was immediately turned off. My only exception to this would be The Rock. For him, I would make an exception.


Tess and her career rise is a stark example of political correctness gone awry.


I do not believe anyone should be picked on for the way they look.


At the same time, I do not believe she should be put on a pedestal for women either.


I’m an educated adult and you cannot convince me that Tess is healthy. She is a walking advertisement for diabetes and heart disease.


And I’ll tell you something else. As an actress, this whole discussion is also quite personal. The smallest I have ever been is a size 4 and that was a full-time job. It’s possible I was smaller at a certain point, but I’ll never know, because it always seemed when I had the bod, I didn’t have the $ for the new wardrobe and vice versa.


I am curvy. Hippy and busty. I cannot change that unless I have surgery and I’m a bit gun-shy when it comes to unnecessary surgical procedures. I have longed for breast reduction since I was a teenager.
At the same time, surgery scares the crap out of me. Although I do realize my chest makes me appear much larger on-camera. It’s a stark reality and I have accepted it.


Hollywood is also a mirror image of this political correct argument. Hollywood tells actresses that you’re either a size 0 or you’re obese. They don’t seem to allow much variance there.


There are exceptions I have seen if you’re a minority.


However, if you’re a Caucasian (appearance) actress and you’re remotely attractive, you had better be perfect. That is my opinion and my experience. Take it or leave it. 


There’s all this talk about gender inequality and racial inequality in casting.


Well, I would like to put my vote in the box for a discussion about size inequality.


I have read for major leading roles on a couple series. When the casting breakdown initially came out it was, “we’re looking for an actress who needs to lose about 15 pounds”


By the time they were cast, the roles were obese. Now, one of these roles was cast with a “name” actress, so I get it.


And please let me say that I appreciate ALL auditions. I love a chance to go in and show what I do. I take my own advice and tell myself, hey, go in and Make Fans (From, “ACTING…It’s Not For Sissies”), because I’m in it for the long haul.


I am the 1st to admit that there are 100’s of reasons why you do or do not book a job. And in a lot of cases it had absolutely nothing to do with your audition.
Your resume, your name recognition, your “type”…many reasons. And they usually have “offers out” on most of these by the time I walk in their door so while I am always hopeful, I am also realistic.


However, when it came to this discussion, I felt the need to put in my 2 cents in regards to body image.


There is no such thing as perfection. And women and girls should not be lectured to by anyone as to who is their perfect body image role model.


There is a place for Tess and there is a place for the Victoria’s Secret models. And there is a place for me too!


Isn’t that the point?



I wish that Tess would focus on herself. I wish she would work on her own image and I’m not just referring to her outward appearance. She needs a PR coach, because I believe she may have overstayed her welcome.



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“ACTING…It’s Not For Sissies”





eBook Now Available in Japanese!!


ebook now available in Japanese 




I’m an actress, acting coach and author in Los Angeles.

I felt compelled to write this book and share these tips & stories due to my experiences with my coaching clients.


Most acting schools & theatre programs teach the craft of acting, but they do not cover the “business” of acting. I wish I had this book when I was starting out! 








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VictimHood & Outrage


Did everyone hear or see all the fuss and buzz about Meryl Streep’s new movie and the campaign they did with the  alleged “offensive” t-shirts?

She is starring as Emmeline Pankhurst in “Suffragette” which is based on the early feminist movement.

First, I love Meryl Streep. Love her. Worship at the altar of Meryl and her talent.

Was it a poor choice to wear those t-shirts which compared women’s suffrage to slavery?

Would it have been better received if the quotation on the shirt was actually in quotes?

Who knows?

They are quoting a woman who in fact said those words within the realm and plight of women’s suffrage.

It’s part of our history.

People are saying that they should not be comparing women’s suffrage to slavery and on and on and freaking on.

Okay I may ruffle some feathers with what I’m about to say, but I’m going to say it.

Can everyone please STOP with the victimhood and false outrage?

This whole Victim Competition is really on my last nerve.

No, I am more oppressed. No, you’re not more oppressed than I am!!

It’s like a schoolyard argument between 3rd graders.

Why can’t they both be right and both tell their stories? Why does it have to be one or the other?

And let’s be real shall we. It’s not a coincidence that everyone is suddenly talking about gender inequality while the shadiest woman on the planet is running for president.

Those same individuals do not care about her credentials, experience, track record or her own War on Women. Especially when those women were involved with her husband. They don’t care that she never paid the women on her  Senate staff the same as the men.

They don’t care that the Clinton Foundation readily took boatloads of money from nations who enslave women.

An Inconvenient Truth?

They are not concerned with the content of that woman’s character. All they care about is her gender.

And as a woman, that is just sad to me. It’s tragic. That’s what you fought for?

And by the way, the USA (or UK in this case) does not own the concept, term or history of slavery. Far from it. Greeks, Romans, Asians, Portuguese, Persians, Irish, etc etc etc  and it’s still happening in Africa. Blacks owning blacks. Just as blacks owned other blacks in the USA.

In 2015 when slavery still exists in other countries and women are sex slaves, raped, crucified and beheaded in other countries…can we please keep it all in perspective?

I’m Assyrian. A Christian from the Middle-East. Some family members believe we have some Armenian and some Lebanese…it depends on who you speak to and I swear to you it has changed in my lifetime. And you can’t exactly get a lot of info from, M-K?

We are Christians from the Middle-East. And they’re being slaughtered. And no one wants to talk about it and I am not going there right now.

Speaking of going there, let me say, I’ve never been to the Middle-East. And it’s sad that I have never had an inclination to go in my lifetime. Why would I? I’m an outspoken woman and a Christian so I’m quite confident I would never make it out alive. My mother thanks god every day that her parents had the foresight to get her out of there. Who knows what would have happened to my mother and her family if they had stayed.

I’m not bringing that up to join in on the victim bandwagon and throw down a trump card. I just think they all sound ridiculous. On the daily.

I have no problem with historical films.  I’m an actor, a writer and a movie fan to my core. I want to see ALL of it!

But this sophomoric and petty crap has worn out its welcome.

These outrage competitions sound like a bunch of unappreciative petulant children.

Lets tell those stories of our past with passion and also understanding & appreciation of how far we have come!!

The irony to me is that the individuals fighting one another about this are the SAME ones who love to ban words and phrases and subjects because it’s deemed politically incorrect. They regularly ban certain phrases and words because someone might be offended.

Just like that bozo that told me I had to change my book cover, because it offended HIM.

Do you think that bozo who feigned outrage at my cover protests the treatment of homosexuals by Islam?

They’re concerned with a phrase, label or word but they do not seem concerned with facts.

You can’t say this, you can’t say that.

That’s the funny thing about Free Speech.

Once you start abandoning it, when does it stop? Sure, let’s not learn from history AT ALL.

Let’s start with the banning of words and phrases. And then we will ban books that we don’t agree with. And then we will be BURNING those books.

Sound familiar?

We’re supposed to learn from history and learn from past mistakes. But I am sorry to say we’re regressing and going backwards.

I don’t believe in coincidences. The marketing team for this film probably knew they would turn some heads with those t-shirts.

And we all took the bait.

At the same time, I said it before and I’ll say it again…this was a quote from one of the leaders of the women’s suffrage moment in the UK. She said it.

And I do not believe in censorship.

Happy Hump Day…Book Updates


Happy Hump Day everyone!

Thank you for the support for my book. It has been very well-received, and not just by family and friends. 🙂 (wink wink)

For those that don’t know me, I am an actress, writer and acting/career coach out of Los Angeles and Houston.

I felt compelled to share these tips & stories due to my experiences with my coaching clients and the issues and questions that came up.

Here are some updates:
My book, “ACTING…It’s Not For Sissies” is coming soon to the Barnes and Noble in AUSTIN at 10000 Research Blvd #158, Austin, TX 78759

It is now available at local Barnes and Noble stores in the HOUSTON area including:
-The Woodlands 1201 Lake Woodlands Dr. The Woodlands, TX 77381
-Pearland 11200 Broadway St Unit 500, Pearland, TX 77584

-Pasadena 5656 Fairmont Pkwy Pasadena, TX 77505

…more stores to come!

If you’re in LOS ANGELES
-It is available at Samuel French Bookshop 7623 Sunset Blvd Hollywood, CA 90046
-Coming soon to the Barnes & Noble 1201 3rd Street Promenade Santa Monica, CA 90401
Barnes & Noble 150 East 86th Street (& Lexington Ave) New York, NY 10028
Like to shop online?
Please check it out on Amazon.

Or if you have a favorite local bookstore you like to support, you can ask them to order it for you.

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Happy Week!

UGA Professor Banned My Book…accused me of hate speech & being a bully…because of the cover


I will not post this professor’s name or email to me. However, I will tell you how I responded to the UGA professor that suggested I change the cover of my book, because it was hate speech toward the homosexual community and that I was a bully.

HERE was my response:


While I appreciate you taking the time to check out my book, I do not appreciate or deserve being accused of hate speech and being called a bully.

No, I will not be changing my book title and cover. I don’t believe in censorship. And you’re not speaking to one of your students, so please save the lecture.

My career, while also being an actress, has been about helping other actors to succeed. I did it for years as a business owner giving actors part-time/contract work. And before I started coaching professionally, I helped out my friends and actors for free and continue to do so.

Actors want to know what I know and they appreciate the help, the tips and the boost to their careers.

You should be really careful about attacking people personally and making assumptions. You made a choice to be offended. That’s on you.

And the term bully has been so overused and hijacked that it has lost its meaning. Shame on you!

My title and my book have absolutely nothing to do with the homosexual community. But you know that. Any educated adult with common sense knows that. Forgive me if I don’t jump on your looking-to-be-offended bandwagon.

It is a term that has been around since the 19th century. Did it have several meanings? Yes. And gay used to mean happy. 

You mentioned that my title says that acting is not for “you”? Are you saying you’re a sissy? Again, you’re choosing to see yourself in that.  That’s a choice. And that has nothing to do with my book or its contents.  I suggest therapy.

I live in Los Angeles, do you think I don’t have gay people in my life? My book has been endorsed and very well-received.

I had hoped to share it with your students.

While I respect your choice, I do not respect your tactics and personal attacks.

It’s incredibly disappointing that someone who teaches college-age students would be so close-minded.

My best to your students.

Break a leg!

**He of course missed the entire point and purpose of my book cover and title.

If you’re going to pursue acting (or any career in the entertainment industry) you had better be thick-skinned.

He actually needs my book*** 🙂