Don’t Be Afraid To Say No & Take A Time-Out



I hope everyone is having a fabulous weekend and doing something fun.

I have decided to take a mental break from “the grind” this weekend. Ommmmmmmmmmmmmm

With that being said my version of “taking it easy” probably isn’t the same as others. I guarantee you there will still be work accomplished.

Okay, I will simply take it down a notch. I have to work on relaxing. Hello, I’m Nicole and I’m a workaholic. I’ll put relaxing on the To-Do List. 🙂

My family of course finds it funny that I say I’m “busy”. Like most families and people with a 9-5, they think if you’re not sitting in a cubicle all day long you must be on vacation. 🙂

Even though I have worked from home for 15 years!!

Well, I have been busy working non-stop for months. Writing my book, publishing my book, marketing my book…all the while working with my LA coaching clients daily, working on my screenplays and auditioning while in Houston.

It was not an easy decision to take a time out from LA & refocus my energies, albeit temporarily.

But sometimes in life it’s okay to say, okay, wait a minute. I’m spread thin and I cannot possibly accomplish everything I want to and need to all at the same time.

It was one of the most difficult and yet smartest decisions I ever made.

I was at a point that I realized in every area of my life it was about someone else.  And my needs and goals were not being met. I was working as a property manager, acting coach and of course, actress and writer.

Acting is always #1 for me. Always and forever. But it started to feel as though there were not enough hours in the day to accomplish all of my creative goals. I have a lot of stories to tell. And I plan to tell them.


I’m a giving person. I love using my skills to help others. I did it previously with my party staffing company & I currently use those skills to help my coaching clients.

But guess what? There will always be those that take advantage. I give and give and give and then finally say, okay, the party’s over.

I talk about this a bit in my book. This realization may come with age, but it’s okay for you to say no to people. If they truly respect you and their motives are genuine, they will understand.

Coming to that point of knowing and realization also put a glaring spotlight on the unhealthy relationships in my life.

It doesn’t matter what city you live in or what industry you work, we all have those people in our lives.

We become comfortable in the dysfunction. Well, that dysfunction is weighing you down.

As I stated in my book, “I am urging you to look closely at the people you surround yourself with, take inventory and perhaps clean house a bit”. 

There is no feeling like it! The timing all came together at the same time. Flush the toxins and set out on a new journey.

Truthfully, there is no perfect scenario pour moi. No such thing.

When I’m in LA full-time, I miss my family and all of their daily happenings.

While in Houston, as busy as I am, I miss all the happenings in LA. I really miss my friends & I miss all those auditions!

I am asked pretty frequently by my LA friends and others, “hey, when are you comin’ back?” 🙂

My whole life is in LA: friends, work & all my stuff!  Not to mention the ocean, hills & mountains. I do miss it, I must say.

At the same time, I am a woman on a mission. I have some goals I wish to complete and then I’ll be back before you can say Callback!

I am enjoying auditioning in the local markets in the South. It’s a different animal. Some familiar faces and I love meeting new casting people! And I’ve come to really love self-taping auditions. If you know me and my lack of technical prowess, that’s really somethin’. 🙂 Every opportunity is always appreciated.

It’s all good news.

My tip to you and the point of this sharing is: If you’re feeling overwhelmed and over-worked, don’t be afraid to say, hey, I need a time out. And don’t be afraid to say no to the “takers” in your life.

I promise your life, work and relationships will benefit immensely.

And to my friends in LA, See you soon!! xo

Break A Leg!


“ACTING…It’s Not For Sissies”



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