Excerpt from “ACTING…It’s Not For Sissies”

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Written By Nicole Comer

Copyright © 2015 by Nicole Comer


All Rights Reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical, including photocopying, recording or any information storage and retrieval system, without permission in writing from the publisher.



Is there anything else you can do? You have probably heard this before and for a very good reason.

I’m not here to depress you, kill your mojo or burst your bubble.

However, if you’re looking for someone to blow smoke up your rear end, I’m sorry to tell you, you may be disappointed.

It’s not Show Dreams. It’s Show Business.

When someone asks you what you want to do with your life…if anything else comes to mind that you WANT to do…please do that.

It’s just too damn hard.

It’s a huge commitment. And if you do not love it, have to do it, will do it the rest of your life (regardless of success level), than…why?

Why put yourself through the financial and emotional turmoil?


Unless you come from a wealthy family that will support you, the financial commitment cannot be ignored.

And I feel that sacrifice is not a strong enough word to describe what it takes to set out on this path.

***Disclaimer for the parents of child actors***

*Yes, this is a business. Everything I will discuss in this book, business-wise, is for your benefit, the parent.

–Your schedule should be as flexible as any adult actor in LA or NYC, because you’re required to take and accompany your child to all auditions and bookings.

*For children to be in this business, I believe they should:

Want to do it, Love it and it should be Fun.

*It’s your responsibility as the parent and/or guardian to keep them on top of things.

*At the same time, please do not think your child being an actor will be a way for your family to do well and therefore put that pressure on your child.

*The notes and tips in this book will be helpful to the parent of a child actor, but, please do not browbeat them with “Nicole said this…” and such, because they have to want it or please leave it alone.

*The moment your child does not want to do it any longer and it’s no longer fun, it’s time to focus on other things and move on.

Okay, back to business!!


There are guides out there with ideas and suggestions for survival jobs to sustain you while you pursue an acting career.

The challenge is finding a job that will pay you enough to live in Los Angeles (or New York City) and at the same time, have a flexible schedule so that you can audition.

I was a bartender, waitress, pharmaceutical sales rep, telemarketer, fundraiser, property manager…and I also owned and ran my own staffing company for 10+ years. Some of these jobs were done simultaneously. Some of them were a career, while also pursuing my acting career.

Los Angeles is an expensive town. And I was certainly not lunching all the time and shopping on Robertson Blvd. I lived (and continue to live) quite frugally.

What if (god willing) you book something?

Will your job allow you to miss work for 1 day? 2 days? What if they say “no, if you miss your shift, you’re fired”?


I simply want you to ponder these scenarios and make a specific game plan. Be prepared. Have a plan. Actually, please have several plans, just in case.

Some will say, if you have a Plan B, you won’t do your Plan A. That’s ridiculous. I am a very positive and spiritual person. I believe in seeing it, thinking it, believing it, doing it and it will happen.

I can’t say it enough that I am not here to kill your mojo. Please think of me as a surrogate aunt/sister/cousin who is offering tips. A fairy godmother, you might say.

You can believe while also planning simultaneously. Be smart!


Before moving to Los Angeles, I came out for approximately 4 days to interview and meet with people. I secured a job at Paramount Pictures so that when I officially moved here a few months later, I knew I would have a paycheck. After doing that for approximately a year and some change, I decided it was time to officially live the life of an actor. So, I didn’t pursue further avenues at the studio, I secured a job as a…bartender.

Working in bars and restaurants was not foreign to me, because I had worked for years in the hospitality industry and put myself through college doing just that.

That was my background and experience. Maybe you have different strengths. I’m sure you do! This is a new generation with innovative technological experiences and skills that they use on the daily. A lot of college-age adults (and younger) are armed with varying interests, skills and entrepreneurial tendencies. Go for it!

The best decision I made was taking my experience and skills and parlaying that into a business so that I answered to no one in regards to my schedule.

Having my own company came with different challenges. I miss my company. I loved creating income for others so that they could live out their dreams. I do, however, not miss the burdens that came with that freedom.

Some of you may say, well, I don’t have to worry about any of this jazz, because I will book acting work and that will sustain me.





“ACTING…It’s Not For Sissies”






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